A New Year With New Opportunties. Learning to Say, “No.”

Saying, “no,” to good things is a practiced and perfected skill. Not everyone knows how to say it. Not everyone wants to say it. As for me, I am still learning. My determination to embrace rest in my life propels me to learn quickly.

From infancy, our flesh pounces on the word, “NO.” We learn to use this word in our days of early independence. God knows how often I hear it come out of my children’s mouths. God bless them.

Nevertheless, “no,” is not always a bad word. Actually, adopting it into our frequent vocabulary is healthy. If you are a leader, you might be asked to lead in many capacities. When you are a leader of leaders, you might be asked to lead in times you feel called to and other times you simply need to.

My husband and I are leaders. Leadership is where we thrive. We are leaders in our family, ministries, jobs, etc. You are also a leader. All of us lead someone and have people watching us whether we want them to or not.

For a moment, I want to speak to those of you that are leaders in your spheres of influence. I want to speak to those of you that are natural-born leaders that no matter how hard you try to step back, you are always brought to the front. You know who you are. Everywhere you go, you are asked to lead something, because you can. You are able. God has gifted you to lead, and it is where you thrive. Other people see leadership qualities exude from you. If this is you, I want to encourage you to say, “NO,” sometimes. Embrace rest and cultivate faithfulness.

If you read my blog, you may have read one of my recent posts, “It’s a New Season.” In the post, I encouraged those of you who have been hidden but are now being called to the forefront. If you have not read that post, I encourage you to go read it and then come back to this post.

It is important in times of release, that we also seek clarity on the things God is releasing us into. In seasons of fruitfulness, opportunities will spring up. Doors will open. YET, we probably are not called to walk through all of them. We have choices. We can’t do it all. When we try to, we burn out.

As the new year begins, I am intentionally praying and seeking the Lord for clarity, vision refining, and discernment. You and I both need to know the steps Jesus is taking with us and have faith as we follow them. To be honest, I am in a season of having to perfect the art of saying, “no.” It is hard. It is really hard.

But, part of saying, “no,” is learning to trust Jesus. I can not save the world and neither can you. He already did that. I can, on the other hand, faithfully love and serve my family. Therefore, we just need to know where He is asking us to partner with Him and be faithful in that. There are times we are called to serve even when we do not feel like it. That is not what I am referring to. There are times we just have to step up. Yet, we are called to lead and serve from a place of rest and surrender, not busyness.

I challenge you in your new season of opportunity, to seek Him. Humble yourself and yield to Him. And remember, leadership is not about gaining power, prestige, or fame. Jesus’ Kingdom leadership is humility. It is service to others. It is putting others needs before your own. It is a sacrifice. It is death to yourself. It is greater accountability before the Lord and others.

We can boldly go for the things Jesus calls you to and rest in the opportunities He is asking someone else to step into.

I pray for clarity, wisdom, discernment, and kingdom blessing on your life dear friend.


P.S. I have been studying REST for the last 6 months. I told you I was determined to learn how to do it! My study has birthed a 30-Day Devotional that is coming out in a few weeks!!!! I will have freebies for my subscribers, so you might want to head on over and get that taken care of now if you are not currently subscribed.







  1. Bethanie Mintz | 3rd Jan 18

    I’ve been reading “Teaching from Rest” by Sarah MacKenzie and it has spoken to me in SO many ways! I NEED rest!!!! I’m always on a schedule with a time crunch and I take out my stress to keep the schedule on the kids. I want to be organized with a schedule, that I hold loosely and that I’m resting in Him, waiting to hear his direction and not be married to my own direction. Anyway… I’m learning a lot in this area too and I can’t wait to see you devotional!!!

  2. Rest. Are You Getting Enough Of It? • Cathy Harris | 16th May 18

    […] I am learning rest in the midst of crazy days filled with early mornings and demanding tasks. I am learning rest in the midst of life, because it so often never slows down. I am learning that rest is a choice. It is a choice to trust Him. It is a choice to say, “No,” to good things. […]

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